☀️ Find the enemy

This way, you'll start the new year with much more strength and clarity and let go of old bitterness.

To start the new year with so much more strength and clarity, today I'm sharing my personal little premium navigation system . This navigation system consistently (sometimes mercilessly) guides me to the right direction.

What does it take to truly experience life well? What does it take to keep a sense of purpose and lightness? How can you stay on track, even when it's overwhelming or even hopeless in some areas? Many of you have experienced major setbacks in recent years or felt feelings that seemed almost unbearable. This year has been a tough one. Time to shake off these feelings, because they've shown you what you don't want to be and what isn't the most inspired—not to mention AWESOME—version of yourself !

STEP 1 || ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS

• What would your enemy look like personified ?
• What is the absolute opposite of what you stand for ?
• What is the opposite of your values ​​and what is important to you?
• What is the absolute opposite of what you want in life?
• Describe the person you are absolutely not

Write down what is absolutely not you by nature. If you know your enemy, you'll be able to quickly eliminate it from your everyday life in numerous small moments. Uninvited guests have to be beaten out—I learned that in Peru! You have to set clear boundaries for the "enemy"! No mercy! So ask yourself, what is your enemy?

Example

My best version is

• playful
• ultra-loving
• humorous
• rough
• cheeky
• soft
• creative
• tirelessly positive
• stubborn
• overly motivated
• imaginative
• excessively generous

These are also the happiest situations of my life in which I fully lived these very qualities .

My enemy is

• unpleasant with people
• hopeless and bitter
• tries to cover up the weaknesses of others instead of lovingly challenging them
• hesitant impulses and creativity do not live
• ugliness
• be a fake chick
• be serious
• accept normal ways
• act absolutely dishonestly and deceitfully
• unfriendly, silly

When I live one of these lives for whatever reason, I feel completely unfulfilled and every minute is unbearable; unbearable !

Now you have your reliable warning signs . Use them! As guideposts. It's so helpful to know what is absolutely not you. And when it 's time to make a correction . If you recognize that you're currently feeling unlovable or hopeless about yourself and your environment, it's super easy to correct yourself once you realize that this is your enemy and, above all, doesn't correspond to your highest values. Your life deserves to be lived.

STEP 2 || PLEASE DON'T BE YOUR ENEMY!

Perhaps you've been living a version of yourself for a while where you've accepted characteristics as given that should really have been slapped down with a baseball bat ! It's not about being harsh on yourself, but about being clear. Take this as an opportunity to simply "not be your enemy" or become your enemy. Instead, be the bravest, funniest version of yourself.

WHAT I TOOK AWAY FROM 2023

We should all continually choose to be the bravest, funniest, and craziest version of ourselves. Anything else can get pretty boring and frustrating . It's our nature to evolve and improve. The more we resist it, the more humbling we become. This year is meant to take you way out of your comfort zone and make it as uncomfortable as possible.

So you move your popoooo

believe in yourself! Because you're simply awesome!

This year, I consciously catapulted myself out of my comfort zone. There's so much to experience, so much to discover. But the price of the new is the death of the old identity. The old version and identity must die, and there's no guidance, no safety net of experience to draw on. Because life and security are built on experience. A trip around the world? Leaving Germany? Leaving home and property? Letting new people into your life? Madre Mia , you can get a little pissed off if not everything goes PREMIUM right away. Especially this lovely, impatient version of me wants everything immediately and, ideally, without any effort ;)

STEP 3 || BE THE CRAZIEST, BRAVEST YOU

From the coaching sessions with you, I've identified two things that were very common. Either the lack of courage to fully stand up for oneself or fear of (repeated) rejection ; fear of being too much and showing oneself off . What I want to share and what I've also experienced:

Regret is worse than living courageously

Boredom is worse than failure

Being a pussy is always more exhausting

It works well for a while to hide behind your desires. But that doesn't last. Life will relentlessly push you towards being a pussy. And it hurts, so that you then move your butt away from it. So that being afraid hurts more than bravely coming out of your shell and risking everything. If you don't do so many of the things that come to mind because society rejects them, because you've had bad experiences, or because they might be too much for others, you will have to live with the regret of having lived a dimmed version of yourself . We all know that a dimmed light bulb uses almost the same amount of electricity. Stop tilting at windmills. It is soooo exhausting and unsatisfying to live below your potential and your highest inspiration.

No matter if you might be too much for someone.

No matter if you might fail at it.

No matter if you could find out, it was not the right way

No matter if you get hurt or injured

No matter if you give more , ask more, contribute more

BE CLEAR

You can handle this!

So don't live below your potential and with unfulfilled thoughts, because that won't make you happy! Less will never be enough . Try it, get involved, and speak what you feel. Again and again and again. Be the inspiring personality that you are . Brave, strange , and always surprisingly different . You are free to continually rediscover yourself, to fail again, to feel again , and to live it to the fullest, willing to be too much for others . Because you can handle it , you can deal with it, and the best part is:

If you are bluntly you

in your craziest version

some people will

leave pretty quickly

others will join your dance

and celebrate the coolest party called life with you

Sparrow, please, please. Don't be your enemy! Be brave and become the best version of yourself again! You can handle it! Join us for the next legendaryNew Year's Eve special on December 30th! We'll blow your everyday lifeto pieces. Tickets are still available here .